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Writing women is not some kind of dark art.

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Keza MacDonald, Video games need more women and asking for that won’t end the world

There are so many great quotes from this article, but I’m pretty sure this is my favorite.

biohazardgirl:

Hey, hey, hey tumblr.

North Dakota only has one abortion clinic and you can’t get an abortion six weeks after conception.

You can’t get an abortion there even if your infant has fatal fetal birth defects.

We filed a lawsuit about this but the law is still in effect.

Do us a solid.

Cheer for us too.

This makes me so mad. Legislators aren’t even chipping away at Roe v Wade, they are smashing it to fucking bits. And that’s a horrific violation of people’s rights, dare I say human rights? Yeah, I’m gonna go with human rights. The right to a safe abortion is a human right because anything less than that takes away a person’s bodily sovereignty.

I think at some point I kind of stopped identifying as liberal because there are lots of people who call themselves “liberal” whose opinions do not align with mine even a little bit.

Sometimes I think of myself as “radical,” which sounds equal parts silly and badass, and I like. But because I also identify as a feminist, I wouldn’t want anyone thinking I’m a “radfem” because that’s a deeply fucked up, privileged movement.

And I guess I run into some of the same issues with “feminist” that I do with “liberal.” There are lots of people who call themselves feminists whose opinions don’t align with mine.

I don’t want to say those people aren’t feminists, although sometimes I feel like they are discoursing at level 5 and I need them to come discourse with me at level 30. And I don’t want to make it a hierarchy, but since that’s clearly what I’m doing, I’ll say that there are plenty of people having conversations at level 50 who would be like, “jesus christ, I can’t explain this to you right now” if I tried to go chat with them. So, that’s why I try to listen and absorb as much information as possible, I guess until I level up? This is the worst analogy.

Anyway, I don’t want to abandon the term “feminist” because it has been and continues to be vilified by so many people. So I use that identifier because if someone sees on my twitter profile (or wherever) that I’m a feminist and they’re turned off by that? Well, we probably don’t want to be talking anyway. And maybe if we do talk, they’ll realize that I’m a totally reasonable person from whom they could learn something.

Of course, many people don’t use the term “feminist” because the movement has hurt them in the past, or they’re uncomfortable with its historical and current lack of intersectionality. Those are very real issues totally distinct from people who blame feminists for the state of families today or begin sentences, “I’m not a feminist, but…”

Those sentences usually end with pretty feminist statements. Just saying.

What I want to talk about is how emotional outbursts typically more associated with men (shouting, expressing anger openly) are given a pass in public discourse in a way that emotional outbursts typically more associated with women (crying, “getting upset”) are stigmatized. I wish to dispel the notion that women are “more emotional.” I don’t think we are. I think that the emotions women stereotypically express are what men call “emotions,” and the emotions that men typically express are somehow considered by men to be something else. This is incorrect. Anger? EMOTION. Hate? EMOTION. Resorting to violence? EMOTIONAL OUTBURST. An irrational need to be correct when all the evidence is against you? Pretty sure that’s an emotion. Resorting to shouting really loudly when you don’t like the other person’s point of view? That’s called “being too emotional to engage in a rational discussion.” Not only do I think men are at least as emotional as women, I think that these stereotypically male emotions are more damaging to rational dialogue than are stereotypically female emotions. A hurt, crying person can still listen, think, and speak. A shouting, angry person? That person is crapping all over meaningful discourse.

- Bullish Life: When Men Get Too Emotional To Have A Rational Argument (via introvertedactivist)

I’ve been thinking more lately about the idea that compromise is the goal, and being respectful and finding common ground are important parts of discussions. We’re made to feel bad for disagreeing and arguing, but there are some ideals on which I will NOT budge, and there is nothing wrong with that. When it comes to sexism, cissexism, ableism, racism, homophobia, etc. — those things are WRONG and I do not need to be respectful of your racist, sexist, ableist, etc. WRONG ideas. So yeah, if you’re not a feminist I can’t date you. If your ideals are fundamentally opposed to mine, we can’t be friends. Sorry I’m not sorry.

I’ve been thinking more lately about the idea that compromise is the goal, and being respectful and finding common ground are important parts of discussions. We’re made to feel bad for disagreeing and arguing, but there are some ideals on which I will NOT budge, and there is nothing wrong with that. When it comes to sexism, cissexism, ableism, racism, homophobia, etc. — those things are WRONG and I do not need to be respectful of your racist, sexist, ableist, etc. WRONG ideas. So yeah, if you’re not a feminist I can’t date you. If your ideals are fundamentally opposed to mine, we can’t be friends. Sorry I’m not sorry.

(Source: americanfeminist)

May 4

STFU Moffat: yuriadventure: One of the most ridiculous concepts that society...

yuriadventure:

One of the most ridiculous concepts that society promotes is that we should always consider “the other side”, that we should always compromise, that the truth is always “in the middle. The problem with this is that it ignores how many stances and opinions are completely not…

‎’Slut’ is attacking women for their right to say yes. ‘Friend Zone’ is attacking women for their right to say no.

- And “bitch” is attacking women for their right to call you on it. (via dezi-desire)

(Source: emilys-nostalgia)

May 9

[trigger warning] Have I ever had “ANY unwanted/undesired physical or sexual contact”?

thirddeadlysin:

aimsme:

face-down-asgard-up:

moniquill:

thebaddominicana:

Earlier in this pregnancy, I filled out my “Initial Health History” form for prenatal and birth care. You know: check the box if you’ve experienced severe headaches, diabetes, all sorts of things. After the usual “Emotional abuse,” “Physical abuse,” “Sexual abuse,” I got to this very interesting item: ”ANY unwanted/undesired physical or sexual contact.”

read the link. so spot on.

Because I can hardly stand the thought of these constant erosions of personhood seeming normal to our daughters and sons.

Your body is not for you. Your body is for men’s pleasure.

And you are at risk, all the time.”


(Source: manifestfreedom)

May 9

‎This year we saw many hilarious performances by women, and many idiotic articles from men about how women suddenly became funny. Yes, imagine how great ‘The Mary Tyler Moore Show’ would have been had Mary, Betty White, Cloris Leachman, and Valerie Harper actually been funny. If only Lucille Ball, Carol Burnett, Gilda Radner, and Julia Louis-Dreyfus had been able to get a laugh. I guess what I’m saying is, this isn’t the year that women finally became funny. This is the year that men finally pulled their heads out of their asses.

- Matthew Perry, presenting at the 2012 Comedy Awards (via rebeccahalls)

Be cool, Sodapop.: I wasn’t going to make any more posts about Girls until after the...

annaetc:

I wasn’t going to make any more posts about Girlsuntil after the second episode had aired because, honestly, everything that’s been said about that first episode has already been said, but you guys, I am so overthe NEPOTISM spoof posterbecause seriously, that’s your critique of a Hollywood production? Nepotism? As though that’s something new and groundbreaking?

There are so many good reasons to be critical of Girls, starting with how unapologetically white it is, and I’ll never say that women everywhere should love and support this show simply because it’s women doing things, because that’s not how feminism works. HOWEVER, I will say that I think the nepotism argument is weak, simplistic, and kind of basically mean in a way that makes me very uncomfortable as a critique of women doing things.

Hollywood runs on nepotism. Every Old Boy’s Club that has ever existed anywhere runs on nepotism. But nepotism is not something that I immediately think of as, Oh yeah, this is something women get to take advantage of all day every day. Because it’s not. So I see a women who are the beneficiaries of nepotism and my first thought isn’t fuck them, it’s go get ‘em, because you’re out of your mind if you think I wouldn’t take advantage of the same opportunity.

I had the same response to that poster when it showed up on my dash last night. I complained about it to my boyfriend saying that if you want to critique nepotism, fine, write a well thought out critique. But I think it’s silly to blame these women for benefitting from it, as if no one else ever does.